I'm totally excited. Brent put in a new kitchen faucet today. Our old one started leaking, so he put in one that's much higher, and has the spray nozzle on it. AND I have a handy dandy soap dispenser now too where our old sprayer used to be. Could life get any more fabulous?!?
We have a bouncing baby girl in the house.... literally. We got out the Johnny Jump up for Megan this morning and she's loving it like Cameron did. Cameron has a serious urge to 'help' her bounce... gotta keep an eye on that.
We went to the horse track with Rich last night. We had a great time. I had an exceptional time because all of my horses won... not that I'm an enormous gambler. Just happy walking out with a little more than I walked in with, and paid for the amazingly healthy dinner of nachos the three of us dined on.
We were talking to Rich last night about how his life is now (Rich was hit by a drunk driver when he was a sophmore in college and is now a quadrapeligic. Brent and Rich have been friends since 4th grade.) and where he wants it to go. He's studying to become a financial planner to work in investments. I'm always humbled by him- he's always got his dreams and determination. Anyways, he lives off of disability, and lives with his dad and stepmother- he's got kind of a studio apartment that they built him there that's perfect for him. But his dad charges him rent. This has always infuriated Brent that Rich has to pay his own father rent with the little bit he gets every month. But this is one of those moments that I think Brent is looking at it from the eyes of Brent's world. I look at it as most likely Bob wants Rich to be able to live as much of an independant life as an adult should (he doesn't charge much- like $200 or something) and he provides the groceries and everything. See, Brent knows without a doubt that his parents would do everything and anything for him if the same were to happen to him and never charge him anything of any kind. I, other the other hand, know without a doubt (we're speaking hypothetically before we met each other) that I would have been S.O.L. and not had anyone helping with jack shiznit. So I look at Rich's situation totally different than Brent does.
I don't even want to think if something were to happen to my children, and I feel like it's one of those things that you have to walk in the shoes before you know. What do you think? Right or wrong? Just curious.
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tough one. gonna get confusing...nick's dad's girlfriend's brother is a paraplegic by definition but can only make gross motor movements with his upper arms...so for conversation's sake a quad. he isn't the most driven person and most of his family isn't willing to help. so i think it has to do with how you are raised. was everything handed to you or did you have to work for it? i like your point of view on this one. having to pay rent might be an additional motivating factor. get him out of the house. make him do something. not just allow him to sit there and do nothing. wow, that was a ramble. hope i got some of my point across!
Heather you won't believe it but I thought about Rich during the holiday season (of course I couldn't remember his name but I knew he was Brent's friend). Wasn't it during the 2004 Christmas season that you had requested prayers for him because he had gotten pretty ill - well that's what made me think about him recently. (I think I just beat Shannon's ramble there) Anyway, I see your point too. It would be way too easy for him to start feeling sorry for himself if he wasn't expected to do anything simply he can't do everything that most people can. Having to "support" himself is one way to make his life as "normal" as possible under the circumstances.
OMG I can't believe you remember that Tracy! Yes, he had pneumonia (sp?) last year and we went and saw him on Christmas!
Brent just says that if it were to happen to our kids, there's no way he would ever charge them rent. But like I said, gotta walk in the shoes, KWIM?
Yep Heather I TOTALLY feel you on that "walking in someone else's shoes" issue. We can always speculate on how we would react to a certain situation, but until we actually find ourselves in it,we can never really know. I pray that you and I NEVER have to make such decisions regarding our kids!
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